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This post walks students through every step, from picking the right person to sending a thoughtful thank-you.
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Let’s be real — asking someone to write a letter of recommendation can feel super intimidating. You might be thinking, What if they say no? What if I say it wrong?
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But here’s the good news: most teachers, mentors, and supervisors expect to be asked, especially by students they’ve built a connection with. A strong rec letter can help you stand out when applying for scholarships, internships, summer programs, or jobs — so this step matters more than you think. The goal? Ask the right person, in the right way, and make it as easy as possible for them to write something thoughtful and personal.
Oh, and the more you practice asking, the easier it gets. Just like anything in college — practice makes better.
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The best letters of recommendation come from people who can speak to your strengths, growth, and character — not just someone with a fancy title. So ask yourself: Who really saw me show up? Who saw me grow? Who can speak to what I bring to the table? That might be a teacher you bonded with, a coach, a supervisor from your part-time job, or a club advisor.
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It’s okay if they’re not your favorite person — what matters is that they know your work ethic and personality well enough to write a meaningful letter. A personal story about your grit or leadership is way more valuable than a generic “hardworking and responsible” blurb.
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Timing is everything. You don’t want to catch someone off guard or expect them to drop everything for your deadline. Ideally, you want to ask 2–3 weeks in advance — or more, if it’s a big opportunity. This gives them time to reflect on what to write and turn in something polished (not rushed).
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How you ask matters, too. Whether it’s in person or via email, be polite and make your gratitude clear. Here’s a simple message you can use when asking:
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Subject: Letter of Recommendation Request
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Hi [Name],
I hope you're doing well! I'm applying for [scholarship/program], and I was wondering if you'd be willing to write me a letter of recommendation. I really appreciated your class and felt like you got to see my growth throughout the semester.
The deadline is [insert date], and I’d be happy to share more details if you’re available to help. Thank you so much for considering this!
Best,
[Your Name]
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Once they agree, don’t leave them guessing. The easier you make this for them, the better your letter will be. Include the following in your follow-up email:
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This isn’t about bragging — it’s about giving them helpful material to write a great letter. Your recommender will appreciate that you took the time to make their job easier.
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Hi [Name],
Thank you again for agreeing to write a recommendation letter for me! Here are the details:
I’ve also attached my resume and a few notes in case they help jog your memory — feel free to mention my leadership in [specific example] or the progress I made in [class/project].
Let me know if you need anything else.
Thanks again!
Your name
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People are busy — and sometimes they forget! A gentle reminder about a week before the deadline is totally okay. Just make sure it’s friendly and respectful. You’re not nagging — you’re helping them remember. And they’ll appreciate it more than you think.
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Hi [Name],
I just wanted to send a quick reminder about the letter of recommendation for [opportunity name] — it’s due on [date]. Please let me know if you need anything else from me! I’m so grateful for your help.
Thank you again!
[Your Name]
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A thank-you note might seem small, but it means a lot. Whether it’s a handwritten card, a thoughtful email, or even a quick update when you get accepted or win the scholarship — saying thank you is just good energy. Plus, it helps keep the relationship strong for the next time you need a rec!
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Hi [Name],
Just wanted to say thank you again for writing my recommendation letter. I really appreciate your support, and it meant a lot to have your words behind my application. I’ll be sure to let you know how it turns out!
Best,
[Your Name]
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Let’s avoid the most common rec letter mistakes. Don’t ask someone you barely know — vague letters don’t help. Don’t ask at the last minute or ghost them after they agree. And don’t forget to give them the info they need — they’re helping you, so make it easy for them to succeed.
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Be clear, be kind, and follow through. That’s how you get a rec letter that stands out.
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